In association with www.BT3EFT.com and www.BESTherapies3.com
Say "Get-Knotted!" - to trouble and strife in your life
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In association with www.BT3EFT.com and www.BESTherapies3.com
Say "Get-Knotted!" - to trouble and strife in your life
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Kathy's Work Place Anxiety "I never knew you could feel so relaxed in just a few minutes!"Pre-Therapy Session Chat Kathy approached me through her sister who knew about the Case Study programme and she volunteered to put herself forward for it. Primarily, she asked for assistance to help her deal with the work place stresses that she was experiencing. Very direct and astute, Kathy is a confident business woman who handles extreme pressure on a daily basis in a customer services environment. Until recently, she worked at the head of a team of people who consulted her for advice, direction and organisation. She is very aware of her own intelligence levels and doesn’t mince her words. She has been married for 5 years. The conflicts at her work place began in October 2007 when there was a particularly stressful time for the Directors who needed to understand the reasons behind the loss of sales. Kathy had worked for the company for a year and had been very happy and challenged well up until that point. But because of this traumatic ‘bullying’ incident from one of the Director’s, her anxiety levels had risen to an overwhelming level that she sought help to cope with the pressure that this was bringing to her life situation. Therapy Session 1 So that we had an achievable set of goals for her sessions, I asked Kathy to give me a picture of her ‘ideal’ life if a genie were to grant her a wish for it. She said she would like to: 1. secure herself a good job so she could begin to be able to pay the bills again 2. be happy and confident again 3. lower her anxiety levels At the beginning of our session, Kathy offered very short, sharp words in answer to my questions. She gave the impression of being assertively ‘businesslike’ in her manner. I sensed a determination and resilience in her character. Although she was friendly and willing to undergo the therapy session, she was very direct and authoritative. How we achieved the goalsLinking her professionalism and her need for controlling her environment around her we focussed on her ability to learn control in different way – in effect, I was suggesting that her behaviour could affect his (or others) behaviour. I suggested that she was bravely acting out her life as a WW1 soldier going ‘over the top’ and meeting the enemy head on. But then emphasised she also had another weapon in her armoury – that of her femininity. That she had the option/choice to use this as another way to gain back control in her life. By linking her strength to her femininity in an assertive manner, my opinion held that she would be able to use this as a different weapon to greater effect, particularly with her superiors. I explained a breathing technique to help teach Kathy a different way of approaching situations that was under her own control. I explained briefly that these anxious sensations were, saying that this was her body getting ready for action. While this breathing technique would help her gain control of herself through relaxation, she would also be learning to detach herself from the anxiety that she may experience. While she was in a relaxed state of mind suggested goals were given to her through the actions she could take while dealing with stressful situations. Stating that she had the strength and determination. She also had the choice for her own life path. While Kathy was in this focussed state of attention, I suggested that she ‘feel the difference’ between certain words and if we could change our mindset, around the meaning behind the words, we could possibly understand the difference in the choices we make in our lives. By helping to re-evoke her status in the work situations throughout her life, she revealed a very strong and intelligent individual who had risen through the workplace without having to rely on ‘paper qualifications’. I believed it would help Kathy feel better to see the lighter side of the situation so reframed some of her own suggestions by helping her see the funny side of it. “Well, in the right place at the right time – for him!” A metaphorical story was offered to her while in the relaxed state as it covered the aspects of her being able to make her own decisions, regardless of who appeared to be in charge. I also used another therapy technique to help Kathy to observe herself (by stepping into another person in the office and looking through their eyes) to enable her to detach from her feelings of the situation. Note: Before we went through the Guided Imagery, Kathy seemed very stiff and guarded and her words were very sharp and short. I noted that her body language was complementary to mine during the initial stages, but as she revealed a little more about her own ‘feelings’ her legs crossed over to guard herself again any exposure of inner feelings. However, through the session this all noticeably softened and towards the end, the change in her voice and body posture was obviously softer and more relaxed and more 'feminine'. After the therapy, Kathy smiled and said that at the start she was feeling an anxious sensation in her stomach and hugged the area of trouble. However, at the end of the therapy session, she gave a wonderfully calm smile, and said "I didn't know it was possible to feel so relaxed in just a few minutes." Session Length: 58 minutes As a result, she expressed more relaxed attitude towards her current workplace and, indeed, life situations. All names have been changed to protect the identity of the subjects. This was a 1-2-1 Human Givens Therapy session
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